How to Comfort the Grieving

Jul 4, 2011 by

When my father passed away almost two years ago, it was, as the cliche goes, the most painful day of my life. I’m not even that close to my dad as to my mom, but the feeling of knowing that he was gone was extremely horrible. It was as if everything I understand about grief and pain were thrown out of the window and I did not know anything about these concepts anymore.

After my dad was gone, it was only then that I truly understand how people feel about losing a loved one. Friends and family who come to offer words of comfort are truly remembered. Every small little gesture means so much to the family: a tap on the back, a warm hug, an assurance that you are there for the family. These are the times when ill-feelings between families are forgotten and we all just come together as people who have compassion for one another.

In death, the ordeal is pretty mixed up in a strange kind of way. We lose someone and yet we gain a lot too. We emerge as stronger people; we see a different light to things; we realize our true friends and the people who care for us. It’s like an hour of truth. And bitter as it can be, it’s THAT love that makes us all behave like we do. Love. For that someone we have lost. Love. From people around us who make us feel better. Love. For the ones that are left behind. Love. A word so abstract. A word so powerful.

My deepest sympathies to my best buddy, Stevie, who lost his dad just recently.

I dedicate this video to you. This choreography by Mia Michaels is about losing a loved one and wishing about spending a few more moments together. Dancing. It is a strong piece of love and remembering.

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